Release Resentment and Anger with these 3 Powerful and Proven Techniques

Hint: What we resist persists.

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When someone hurts us we lash out — emotionally or physically, perhaps both — depending on the circumstances and our personality type. Some of us internalize our heartaches, unintentionally trapping the pain and causing the unexpressed anger to “pace the cage” inside us.

This repressed pain manifests itself as a poisonous brew of bad habits, toxic relationships, feelings of inferiority, unexplained low-level aches and pains, or a variety of common anxiety disorders and “dis-eases.”

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On the other hand, people with healthy coping skills allow themselves to feel pain entirely without trying to push it away with distractions, or worse, numb themselves by self-medicating.

They innately understand the only way out of the pain is through — not over, under, or around it. It’s a one-way street straight through the heart of the matter.

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While we can’t pick our personalities, we can choose to alter how we deal with pain to free ourselves from a potential life of misery.

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Holding onto anger and resentment is like forcing an inflated beachball underwater and attempting to keep it submerged. It works for a while, but eventually, it breaks free and bobs to the surface.

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So, what’s the solution?

If you, like me, are prone to internalize your anger, here are three powerful and proven techniques for letting go and learning to live your best life:

  1. Ditch the distractions. Whether digital or otherwise. Attempting to dodge anger in an assortment of Disneyesque endeavors meant to divert attention from the actual source only ensures that the pain will continue to plague you. Reflect on the situation. Be willing to take responsibility for any part you may have played and then move on.The unexamined life is not worth living. -Socrates
  2. Fake it until you become it. If you’re having difficulty confronting the source of your resentment or anger, act as though you’re changing your clothes! For instance, if you’re naturally timid, imagine yourself changing your “outfit” to reflect your new assertive state of mind. Once “fully dressed,” it’s far easier to confront the situation head-on. “Permit yourself to feel anger, pain, and resentment. Relax, then let it go with love.” -Unknown …….“When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control how you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is.” -Unknown.
  3. Forgive. We’re ALL human and doing the best we can; just trying to get through this thing called Life. We must learn to forgive others if we expect others to forgive us for our mistakes and missteps. “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. -Mark Twain

What we resist persists, but what we face and embrace becomes Grace.

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