How Are you Today? Please Don't Say Fine.

The shocking true meaning of fine.

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It’s a standard greeting — “How are you?” Typically, it’s more of a polite verbal handshake than a genuine inquiry and reciprocated with an equally courteous and meaningless reply — “Fine, thanks.”

Just two humans being humans -nothing to see here, right?

Or is there?

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We’re busy. We’ve got important work to do, families to care for, challenges to overcome. Do we really care to share or, frankly, have time for a broad discussion of our actual state of affairs?

Probably not. So we mindlessly answer, “fine.”

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But what if the true definition of FINE was something so shocking that you’d never knowingly describe yourself this way - let alone have others think you are?

So, what is it? What IS its real meaning?

F=ucked up

I=insecure

N=eurotic

E=gotistical

Shocking, isn’t it?

Does that describe the way you feel? Hopefully, not.

Whenever I’m casually asked the question, “How are you?” The F.I.N.E. acronym reminds me to stop and contemplate my true feelings — whether I share them or not. I can choose to answer a different way as I’m now fully awake, aware, and mindful of what’s really going in inside.

So, tell me, how are YOU?

Creative. Copywriter. Blooming blogger. Breathwork enthusiast. Ghostwriter. Bohemian soul. Comments and creative collaboration inquiries: Alicej@charter.net

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